Everyone's a Killer Baby....

Recently the media was full on about how a 15 year old daughter killed her mother by gun shot and multiple knife wounds. Though shocked at d brutality with which the murder occurred it begged the question, 'Why ?'. Whatever the motive behind the crime it must have been something pretty serious for anyone, especially a 15yr old to even consider such a brutal murder.

Having said that, I think, given the right circumstances, everyone is a potential killer. Everyone is physically capable of ending an other man's life. What keeps us from killing everyone whom we disagree with or dont like is our ingrained sense of ethics and moral fibre. This is basically what seperates man from beast. However, put a man in a situation where normal society rules dont apply and he is reduced to his basic animalistic instinct. All animals have their own defence mechanism and each one will react when threatened. This is known as d 'Fight or flight' syndrome. A cornered animal is at his most dangerous as he has nowhere to run. The same with humans. Remove all options of 'Flight' and he will attack. He may even kill.

E.g. Would you not risk killing someone should he be threatening d life of a loved one ? Would you not attempt to stop anyone from killing you , even if that means ending his life in d process ? When i used to train Martial Arts i always went by two Mottos :

We teach you how to fight so you dont have to fight

It's better to be judged by 12 then carried by 6

The two mottos both represent two different approaches (there's Duality !) The first is teaching you self control and discipline and to always walk away from a fight (FLIGHT) and the second is telling you that should the first one not be an option, well, strike to kill, self preservation, better taking your chances with a jury then be killed (FIGHT)

Anyway... its something to think about...and also a good reaason why we should never judge anyone until we've walked a mile in that man's shoes.

Peace

Cats in the Cradle ....

"When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when,

But we'll get together then.

You know we'll have a good time then."

My son turned ten just the other day.

He said, "Thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play.

Can you teach me to throw?" I said, "Not today,

I got a lot to do." He said, "That's ok."

And he walked away, but his smile never dimmed,

Said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah.

You know I'm gonna be like him."

Ok so i was driving home this evening from work after a hellish day at work and all of a sudden this song starts blaring out from the Landy's speakers. It was "Cats in the Cradle" by Ugly Kid Joe and though i had heard that song a million times today the lyrics really hit me and damn near brought a tear to my eye. For those of you whom have never heard d song its about this guy who was always working whilst his son was growing up and his son worshipped him, yet when he grew up he grew just like his dad and never had time for his dad cause he was always working.

So what? i hear you say ...well its just that when i was growing up my dad was chasing his career and we didnt see much of him as he'd leave before we got up and often get home late in d eve. I always used to think abt how come my daddy didnt come home at 5.00pm like all d other kid's daddies. I used to resent that but as i grew older and started working myself i realised and acknowledged all my dad has sacrificed for his family.

Now at 25 years of age i find myself chasing and trying to build up my career and its often me who's up before my dad and coming home later then him so its like i'm never there to spend time with him. Thats why the damn song really hit me today... its uncanny how similar to our story it was.

Thanks Dad for all u've done for me and d family ... I love you

Goodbye little one....

10 days ago some heartless bastard ended d life of one of my closest companions.... yeah he was a dog but he was always happy to see me ....

He had been in d family for almost 15yrs ever since he was just a little pup... he had a very sheltered life always indoors being mollycoddled by all and sundry... his greatest joy in life was to lay on my dad's lap being fed peanuts whilst watching Man Utd games.... lol I guess my dad used to enjoy that ... at least he could watch footie with one of his 'boys'. Hehe

Mum was dopey on him, and i guess he reciprocated dat in his own doggie way....no matter what we tried to bribe him with she'd just have to call him and he'd come running to her.... guess he made it clear whom he belonged to ...

Me ? ... guess we had a love/hate realationship (there's dat duality thing again!) .... i loved him to bits yet i guess i tried too hard and smothered him...hehe ... my folks always thought i didnt love him but it was me who worried d most abt him, me who came between him and an alsation ...

he used to love choccy and would end up eating more then any of us if we shared a bar ...hehe except from me...i'd always try to make sure i'd gobble mine before he finished mum and dad's ... :P

anyway..... wanted to dedicate this post to you little one ....even if u never will see it.... you are sorely missed...i still keep listening out for the patter of ur little paws... and ache when i see ur little empty basket.... big tummy rub from me.... mum told u to be a good boy wherever u are...

The beginning

Been meaning to start off my own blog as a place to write down my thoughts and ramblings for ages.....so here goes

I guess i'd beter start off describing myself a bit....

I'm a Gemini...and all my life has been governed by the duality in Nature which is inherent to people born under this Star e.g. Some people describe me as

rough and tough, yet others describe me as gentle and caring,

cold hearted yet warm and lovable,

impulsive, yet cautious

aggressive, yet restrained,

careless, yet thoughtful,

firm, yet malleable,

i like rock music, but also listen to love songs,

slow to react, but unstoppable once i do,

i love being single, yet am always on the lookout for the love of my life ;)

i could go on and on for hours but you still wouldnt know me.... i have many layers and only my true friends have started to scratch the surface of what i'm all about.

Anyway... watch this space.... i'll be posting in regularly... if u wanna get to know me , this will be a good place to start ;)